Comments on: What message am I sending? http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/04/what-message-am-i-sending/ A glimpse from the other side-marriage and step-parenting after 5 years of single-parenting. Mon, 09 Nov 2009 15:01:52 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Shannon http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/04/what-message-am-i-sending/#comment-190 Shannon Fri, 13 Jun 2008 16:50:38 +0000 http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/?p=92#comment-190 B's Dad was driving separately from the girlfriend-he had to play a wedding and she wanted to go down earlier. I agree-I would have waited. I know with most men you might have been correct, but I think that he's pretty ok having B by himself. He originally didn't have a girlfriend and used to keep her all weekend alone with him. She loved that! I miss her horribly and can't wait! Glad you are still here Kelly, I wondered where you went! B’s Dad was driving separately from the girlfriend-he had to play a wedding and she wanted to go down earlier. I agree-I would have waited.
I know with most men you might have been correct, but I think that he’s pretty ok having B by himself. He originally didn’t have a girlfriend and used to keep her all weekend alone with him. She loved that!
I miss her horribly and can’t wait! Glad you are still here Kelly, I wondered where you went!

]]> By: Kelly http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/04/what-message-am-i-sending/#comment-185 Kelly Thu, 12 Jun 2008 01:03:45 +0000 http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/?p=92#comment-185 hmmm....... playing catch-up here. So B's dad was driving separately from his girlfriend? Was she flying or something? Eleven hours is a long way to drive separate. Without knowing his laziness guage, he may not have wanted B staying with him that night if his girlfriend wasn't there to "do the work". I know this sounds sexist.... but I know a lot of lazy men who don't want to lift one extra finger for the kids. (And I know many men who would move the world for their kids) It just depends on the guy. Or yes, there is always the possibility that he wanted to be "free" to do his own things while the girlfriend was gone. Hope all has gone well. I'm sure she's missing you! hmmm……. playing catch-up here.

So B’s dad was driving separately from his girlfriend? Was she flying or something? Eleven hours is a long way to drive separate.

Without knowing his laziness guage, he may not have wanted B staying with him that night if his girlfriend wasn’t there to “do the work”. I know this sounds sexist…. but I know a lot of lazy men who don’t want to lift one extra finger for the kids. (And I know many men who would move the world for their kids) It just depends on the guy. Or yes, there is always the possibility that he wanted to be “free” to do his own things while the girlfriend was gone.

Hope all has gone well. I’m sure she’s missing you!

]]> By: Shannon http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/04/what-message-am-i-sending/#comment-173 Shannon Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:44:37 +0000 http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/?p=92#comment-173 Littlemansmom-thanks for the great pep talk. I first received it on my blackberry and all I could think was-hmmm, maybe she's an orthodontist! ;) But you are right and I'm trying to tell myself all that when I have to turn the expander each night. Leslie-Yes, that is a good point. I will continue to evaluate it as we progress. At this point she says she doesn't want it all out. She knows she will have amazing teeth. And with a face as cute as that it's a killer combination! I am definitely biased. :) And her Dad is shady alright. He knows I'm onto him-now he wants to take her tomorrow night. I said he'll have to ask HER. I'm not cool with this whole week long vacation without me there-him driving her scares me enough. Littlemansmom-thanks for the great pep talk. I first received it on my blackberry and all I could think was-hmmm, maybe she’s an orthodontist! ;) But you are right and I’m trying to tell myself all that when I have to turn the expander each night.

Leslie-Yes, that is a good point. I will continue to evaluate it as we progress. At this point she says she doesn’t want it all out. She knows she will have amazing teeth. And with a face as cute as that it’s a killer combination! I am definitely biased. :) And her Dad is shady alright. He knows I’m onto him-now he wants to take her tomorrow night. I said he’ll have to ask HER. I’m not cool with this whole week long vacation without me there-him driving her scares me enough.

]]> By: Leslie http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/04/what-message-am-i-sending/#comment-172 Leslie Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:39:03 +0000 http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/?p=92#comment-172 I still can remember my mom making rice the day I got my expander and the mess that was to eat haha I got to a point years into the orthodontic process that I didn't want anymore & my parents were more than happy to cut up the payment book. I had the top teeth done but just didn't care about the bottom teeth and the overbite. I've never been sorry. You're doing a great thing for her but definitely evaluate as you go along. Her dad definitely sounds shady :( Good thing she's got such great stability in your home, the new hubby sounds like a good guy! I still can remember my mom making rice the day I got my expander and the mess that was to eat haha I got to a point years into the orthodontic process that I didn’t want anymore & my parents were more than happy to cut up the payment book. I had the top teeth done but just didn’t care about the bottom teeth and the overbite. I’ve never been sorry. You’re doing a great thing for her but definitely evaluate as you go along.

Her dad definitely sounds shady :( Good thing she’s got such great stability in your home, the new hubby sounds like a good guy!

]]> By: littlemansmom http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/2008/06/04/what-message-am-i-sending/#comment-171 littlemansmom Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:46:42 +0000 http://bsmommy.wordpress.com/?p=92#comment-171 No mixed messages.....perfect teeth means that she'll have less chances of crowding, cavities, tartar build-up, discolouration etc when she gets older which means her dental costs will be less which means $ spent of something preferable rather than necessary! You are teaching her about taking care of herself and the importance of good hygine...it's not a bad message at all! Besides...she looks adorable! :) No mixed messages…..perfect teeth means that she’ll have less chances of crowding, cavities, tartar build-up, discolouration etc when she gets older which means her dental costs will be less which means $ spent of something preferable rather than necessary! You are teaching her about taking care of herself and the importance of good hygine…it’s not a bad message at all!

Besides…she looks adorable! :)

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