So I have some super-duper, fabulous, there-through it all girlfriends.  I think I’ll do a tribute to them now.  I won’t get through all of them, but I wanted to at least get a new post up!  We’ve been SO busy lately, but more on that later.


I’ve mentioned her before, but Tammy has been with me through it all.  She walked in just as I was delivering the placenta, after B was born (TMI, nah…you’ve been there).  She moved to FL after her divorce (she was married to a friend of my ex-husbands and we bonded pretty quickly).  She has stood the test of time.  She’s loyal to a fault and our bond is like sisterhood (she should know, she has 3 sisters!).  When I’ve had to have surgeries in the past, I always tell her she is in charge of making sure that my ex-husband takes care of my baby and that my girl knows how much I love her, should something happen to me.  B calls her “Aunt Tammy”.

*Jess C.*

She’s stood the test of time as well.  She is the little sister of my ex-husband’s band mate and we worked in the local retail outlets together.  I adore her.  Even if I don’t see her for a year, it doesn’t change a thing.  I’d do anything for her and she for me, and we both know it.  She introduced me to the guy who eventually became my second and last husband.  And when we were apart, she never badmouthed either of us to the other.  That’s huge.

*Jess H.*

I never see my little Jess anymore, but she’s fabulous and should have been my daughter’s godmother.  She’s got morals, she’s beautiful and a genuinely good person.  I miss her all the time.


Oddly enough, I met DeAnn when she dated my ex-husband and my daughter fell in love with her and her two girls.  The ex and she broke up, my baby missed the two girls and Miss DeAnn and we arranged some ballet classes together for the girls.  We hit it off and now say that the reason the ex was brought in our lives was so we could find each other.  We’ve had some rocky spots but it made our friendship all the stronger.  And I love her girls a ridiculous amount.  They are like my other kids.  Our girls are like sisters and we take special girl trips together periodically.  We single-mom’d it for awhile together, several years and now we take vacations and do girl days with the five of us.  Our girls have often said we should all buy a house together, and I have to say, we have definitely contemplated it.


She’s about four years older than me and her life is mine, 4 years into the future.  No joke.  If it happens to her, I can expect I’m going to go through nearly the same thing in 3-4 years.  It’s time tested folks.  Divorce, kids, re-marriage, jobs…all of it.  She’s fabulous and usually the person who gives me the best advice, even when it’s not what I want to hear.  She’s a great mom and I know she parents like me.  She’s a great role model and wonderful friend.  She’s been an inspiration in how to stepparent with ease.

I love those guys.  I have great family and lots of great friends, but these guys are a core that I don’t know where I’d be without them.



5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Liz
    May 21, 2008 @ 16:10:29

    I’d be lost without my girlfriends!!!!


  2. littlemansmom
    May 22, 2008 @ 09:40:02

    Friends are like family…excpet you get to pick them! (lol) Sounds like you’ve picked some wonderful sisters….


  3. Karon
    May 22, 2008 @ 12:33:30

    Shannon, great post. I found it because of your reference to your friend Diane the stepparent. I appreciate your enthusiasm and support for stepmoms — tough job! And I’m sorry, but I don’t know how to write to you privately, so I’ll ask here: I’m looking for stepmoms to contribute stories/advice/lessons learned for a new book. Perhaps you’d like to participate — or know of others who would? I’ll be happy to get you more info. Thanks!

    Many blessings,
    Continuing the Stepparenting Journey


  4. dadshouse
    May 23, 2008 @ 10:01:29

    Good for you for those connections, especially the one who is your ex’s ex-gf. I can’t imagine keeping a relation like that through my ex. Maybe a difference between men and women? Women tend to be better than me at social relations. I admire it.


  5. Leslie
    May 23, 2008 @ 16:10:16

    You’re so blessed Shannon! 🙂


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