Ok, so I know this is going to generate some serious controversy, but that is not at all what I’m trying to do. I’m just genuinely confused by something, and have been confused by it in the past, so I’m thinking my online blogger support team might be able to help me understand the rationale behind something.
Look at the photo contained in the link below and think for a moment, I mean really reflect, on the feelings it evokes. (I can’t link in or post the actual picture here right now, because of the ridiculous blocks this place has on my Internet-good thing I only have 26 days left here).
Anyway, for now, just click on it-the article is interesting too:
The reason this comes to mind yet again, is because someone I know just had their second child. This person did not breastfeed the first daughter. Now that in my mind is fine, it is one’s OWN choice after all, I’m not about requiring it to be mandatory. But my question is about the fact that this person chose this option before ever even trying it ONCE. As both an immunologist and a mother, I can’t understand it. Maybe you can. And you’ll help me to get it too.
First of all, I would not have been able to withstand the unending curiosity of what the whole process would BE like. Second of all, in this era of all the moms who try to “one up” each other with all the advantages they give their child, it’s hard to believe that one would not at least give a little attempt…even a couple days of trying… Trust me, it wasn’t a breeze for me. Not by a long shot. I had a hearty little eater in Miss B. She latched on very easily, and she had an easy time of it. However, I went through several rounds of infections, a few rounds of really embarrassing moments and one really, really gross incident that my ex-husband recalls all too well, where he came home from work to find me pumping bloody milk into a bottle while our daughter slept. He asked me what I was doing and I said through clenched teeth “This little girl WILL be breast-fed for AT LEAST ONE YEAR!”. I threw out that milk by the way-I just wanted to keep pumping until I healed so that my milk would not dry up. Ok, so even the ex will attest to my stubborn streak-which is even stronger when it comes to my little girl. But it wasn’t just my obstinance that made me keep going this time. I could not, in my right mind, give her that nasty tasting formula. I tasted it out of that unending curiosity that I am made of and I nearly vomited. For real It. Was. Disgusting. And yeppers, I tasted my milk and I’ll be damned if it wasn’t some really good stuff. And I don’t even like milk! It tasted like the milk at the bottom of a bowl of Lucky Charms!
And also, as mentioned before, I’m a scientist who once planned on going to med school. All those hours spent poring over medical books and studying MCAT study guides affected me in many ways and I’m just a tiny bit passionate about the health and well-being of our children. I get why women stop after awhile. It’s not convenient I know. I leaked all over my best friends bachelorette party when B was just days old. I then proceeded to bust out of the dress for her wedding a few days later and wound up pumping in a janitors closet. Yes. I leaked all over that dress too. (Laughing as I type this). There were times I wanted to quit and it was certainly bittersweet when B was done and started to walk up to me to get her milk (happy to be “free” of that, but sad to be “free” of that)-but I couldn’t have imagined it any other way. I want the best for her. Always. And that won’t always be convenient for me. So when you have a baby, don’t you feel that you should TRY to breastfeed, unless it’s medically not possible or there is some substantial reason not to? I guess I just can’t understand why you wouldn’t even try it ONCE? I’m going to censor myself now and cut this post off…because I’m sure someone will be offended. But I just really want to know a legitimate reason that will make me understand why a mother wouldn’t just try it. Once. That’s all.